I read a meme today.
It’s intentions were noble. I think it was trying to point out that sexuality, gender, race and religion did not matter to the author but the sentence that exploded at me was something like, “it’s simple, if your nice to me, I’ll be nice to you.” Yeah….. So….. Here’s the thing……
It’s wicked easy to be nice to those who are nice to us, the work, and I mean “inside work” , growth, development, is in being nice to those not so nice to us. We are all so afraid of losing something by practicing empathy. The inside work creates an environment for facing those fears and getting real about the stories we tell ourselves and the things we make stuff mean. It’s the inside work that teaches self honor and boundaries within a heart of compassion and empathy.
I hear people saying things like, “there’s no excuse for _____”, you fill in the blank, selfishness, explosive outburst, being rude, whatever and yet for each person who would lay down these hard rules of judgment I can promise you that I can find someone else that has witnessed what they perceived as the very same quality coming from the source of “There’s no excuse for ___”. I see it myself, many times.
Our species and our planet are in need of the inside work. Our physical borders overlap, our needs spread far and wide. Our plot has shifted and our characters will have to as well.
Hope springs eternal and I see it! I see it happening! I’ll keep looking inside. It just feels better!! Don’t you think? Well, eventually anyway. Inside work does bring it’s own set of disturbance for sure but with an end game, with a light at the end of the tunnel.